Real talk ladies, I am not the one to come to if you need any kind of makeup advice! I am the worst!
I finally tried to put on some fake lashes a couple months ago and failed miserably! I’m pretty sure I almost got glue in my eye.
So, you can imagine how comfortable I was with this week’s challenge...
I am a simple gal. I don’t like to put a lot of stuff on my skin that can potentially cause irritation, or a break-out. I have battled more with break-outs as an adult than I ever did as a teen.
Once I went vegan, that helped, but I’m learning the real key is lots of water and less gluten. Whaaaaa….I love bread like my lungs love air!!!!
Don’t get me wrong, I think makeup is super fun. When someone does it for me I always get excited to see what’s possible. I just do not know how to recreate looks on myself.
My idea of makeup is eyeliner and filling in my brows; a step up from that is eye shadow; and if I’m really getting fancy for an event, then I will do mascara, maybe foundation, and some lip balm.
I recently thought I was going to try a little harder to learn, and that I would get some new makeup since I know all of mine is for sure expired! Not expired by an actual packaging date, but in the way that the industry has said do not keep the products for longer than like six months. Oops!
The last time I remember buying anything other than a replacement brow or eye pencil was at least three years ago, I believe. I know, I know! I just don’t use makeup often, or even know how to play with my look, so why bother?
The other difficulty for me is that I have a really hard time figuring out how to match my complexion with the foundations and powders. I applaud the makeup industry for coming out with a much more versatile line of choices, but it’s still hard to hold a package and pay money for something that may be all wrong.
I guess the real challenge for me is figuring out how to eventually shop for and apply makeup when I do want to wear it. While not wearing any makeup this week was so easy because it is my default, I do understand that for many women it can feel uncomfortable and even weird, in a way.
Hopefully, in those situations it is because you really enjoy makeup and have fun with it rather than feeling it’s necessary, or wanting it to be a mask.
If you wear it because you feel less-than without it, I would encourage you to check in with yourself and ask yourself why that is the case. Look at yourself in the mirror before you apply your products next time and smile at yourself. Remember that we all have body sensitivities and hang ups, but that only goes away with a showering of love and forgiveness to yourself—not feeding that lie more negative speak.
Most of us are waking up every day and doing the best we can. This is a fast-paced world, full of opinions that push self-doubt.
I guess what I always say to myself is, Why be so hard on yourself? Why do you need to put more on your plate than there already is?
I take care of my hygiene, and I try to be fit and eat healthy. Anything beyond that is just for fun, or because I want to play with my look. I do not need to be anything more than a good person in this world. And no one has ever said to me, “Look at your makeup/clothes! I bet you’re a really good person!”
Now, if someone has said that to you, I need to hear how that went down.
I believe in the beautiful quote by Maya Angelou, “We have to confront ourselves. Do we like what we see in the mirror? And, according to our light, according to our understanding, according to our courage, we will have to say yea or nay—and rise!”
Of course, I realize that makeup itself is not necessarily deep enough to warrant the quote; however, the message and our reasoning for feeling like we are not good enough or not loving ourselves enough is the root of what it is about.
So, I say, "Love yourself—every feature!"
The ones that are not your favorite—think of them as the hill a runner has to conquer. With practice, such as positive self-speak, that runner can climb mountains!
Run Forest, Run!